Melissa’s debut book Mastering Your Mean Girl is an honest, heartfelt, thought provoking and relatable guide which navigates and steers the reader to delve deep inside, to pull out and deal with the inner critic, often a source of unhelpful and niggling doubts, fears and negative self talk.
Mastering Your Mean Girl offers clear and actionable steps to enable you to recognize and understand how disparaging mean girl thoughts that swirl around in your mind can be and the negative and damaging affects that your internal dialogue can have not only your frame of mind but on your relationships, career and your everyday life.
The book examines limiting beliefs and their destructive and caustic nature and provides advice on how to deal with restraining and preventative thinking to arrive at a place of self-acceptance through self care, self love and heart centered practices.
The book is peppered with inspirational quotes and real life examples that can nudge you into the positive and with daily practice can help you to live the life of your dreams.
I sat down with Melissa in my garden and asked her a few questions about her beautiful brand new book.
What is your Mean Girl and why should we be mastering her?
Your Mean Girl is that fear-based voice inside your head that tells you you aren’t good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, skinny enough… whatever enough. Essentially, it is your ego. That voice is NOT your truth. Your truth is love, and in order to live a life beyond your wildest dreams, you need to learn how to master her and live from your heart. That’s when life starts to seriously rock.
It's an interesting concept, what drew you to this subject?
A strong desire to help myself at first, then I realised that if I was struggling with bucket-loads of fear then other women might be too. I started sharing the concept of mastering your Mean Girl and it resonated with so many women all over the world. I now have a burning desire to help as many women as I can master their inner Mean Girl and live the life they truly desire.
Any tips on how to master our Mean Girl?
Reading my book Mastering Your Mean Girl is the first place to start 😉 But to jump in right now, there are 3 quick steps you can take to master your Mean Girl:
- Awareness. Become aware of when she pops up and tells you that you’re not good enough, thin enough, whatever enough. Most times we are so unconscious and not present that we aren’t even aware of her internal dialogue, so bringing your awareness to her words is the first step.
- Gently close the door on her. Once you are aware that she has popped up, you can now choose to gently close the door on her. It’s not about fighting her, or waging an inner battle — that’ll just cause more pain and suffering. Instead, it’s a gentle, grateful act that comes from a place of peace.
- Choose love instead. Once you have gently closed the door on her you, choose to come back to your heart and choose love instead. It’s so much more fulfilling when you do.
How do you think you've evolved since writing the book?
I guess I care less what other people think — even more so now. When you share from your heart and pour it all out, there’s nowhere to hide! In my book, I share very personal details about myself and my life which left me feeling very vulnerable, but at the end of the day my intention was to inspire and support my beautiful readers, which I believe I have done.
What motivates you?
Being of service... Gets me fired up every time.
What's Melissa up to next?
I am just enjoying the ride and focusing on being present.
Melissa Ambrosini is the author of Mastering Your Mean Girl, an entrepreneur, motivational speaker, and self-love teacher. In her signature straight-talking style, Melissa teaches women how to master their inner Mean Girl, smash through limiting beliefs, and ditch the self-doubt so that they can start truly living the life of their dreams. Named a 'self-help guru' by Elle Magazine, she is known for her inspirational live events, books, booming online community, her weekly Goddess Groups, game-changing online programs such as the MA Academy Business Bootcamp, her soulful guided meditations and empowering keynote talks.
Her mission is to inspire women across the globe to create a heart-centred life that’s wildly wealthy, fabulously healthy and bursting with love.
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